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Ochuko Akpovbovbo's avatar

You had me hooked. Start to finish. Also obsessed with your writing. The way you play with words...

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Tahirah Hairston's avatar

😭😭 thank youuu ❤️

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ShutUpKennedy's avatar

Impulse shopping feeling quick and dirty is perfect way to describe it. Like a drunk hookup or one night stand lol. It’s not true romance

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Ifeoma's avatar

The type of writing that made me fall in love with books at age 7. The imagery and metaphor use is just exquisite. Oh words are the best romantic tool.

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Precious Stephens's avatar

This made me want to shop 🥰

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Boogie Humphrey's avatar

This was a beautiful essay and is speaking to precisely where I am at the moment. Current culture doesn’t reward waiting or prolonging the moment and it’s easy to trick ourselves into thinking “I have to get it now because I’ll never find it again!” The lushness of your writing was perfect for a rom-com comparison!

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Ellie Kime's avatar

What a gorgeous read!

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Otega's avatar

This was such a beauty to read - it’s definitely going to leave an imprint in my psyche 😅👏🏾

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C. Elyse's avatar

Also agree on Mississippi Masala!

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Christina Loff's avatar

Oh I loved this so much. I need to do more of this. And In the Mood for Love is a favorite of mine, maybe I'll rewatch this weekend.

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Tahirah Hairston's avatar

thank youu for reading 🥰

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Christina Loff's avatar

Of course. Love your words.

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Ana Karina Zatarain's avatar

The girls that get it, get it!

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JB's avatar

Loved this. As someone trying to overcome a the constant impulse to shop and consume AND as a lover of romance, this spoke to me on so many levels. There are things on my wishlist that have been there for a year or two now and I’m enjoying letting them linger and wait for a while until I’m ready to return to them ♥️

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Tahirah Hairston's avatar

Thank you for reading 🥰❤️

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C. Elyse's avatar

I’m this way about jewelry: Then, finally, if and when the time is right — there’s no formula, just a feeling of certainty — I let it find me and take the plunge. 

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Adeola Adeyemo's avatar

This was an amazing read! I love how you articulated this experience so well. Making better shopping decisions is one of my goals for this year, in tandem with finding my personal style outside of fast fashion and fleeting trends. This was a really validating read for me

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Maryam's avatar

I loved this, reminds me of when I leave something behind in a second hand store and mull about it for a week and then find it a week later, like it was waiting for me to return. I don’t like the instant gratification of shopping, something has to feel like an old friend, I have to stay in the changing room for an hour trying the same things over and over again until it feels right or wrong.

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